Sunday, December 15, 2013

Boyfriends vs. Slaves


I've been out of the blog-o-sphere for the past ten months, in a monogamous vanilla relationship with another man. It's amazing how unexpectedly one can fall in love and although we are no longer together, my heart is still his.

It does raise a good question though, what made him my boyfriend and not my slave? Here are some of my thoughts on the matter:

Intention

When I meet slaves for BDSM, they approach me as slaves. I've never once had a man who I've been dating say, "I want to be your slave". Right from the onset, there is the knowledge that the guy in front of me is a slave. He finds my blog or my profile on a site or hears about me from someone else, and we approach everything from that point forward and he is limited to the capacity of a slave. Similarly, with boyfriends, you meet them in a coffee shop or out some place and you approach it differently - as equals, as potential mates, possibly friends and that develops into something more.

Attraction

The majority of slaves I meet are average looking - some not even that. There's been a few, however, that well, let's just say have made my buzzard go off. These slaves are often already in relationships or do not want a relationship. Believe me when I say, that my standards are not that high when it comes to looks - that should offer some hope to any slaves who do aspire to being more, but I have to be attracted to any man who is my partner. On the other hand, I do not have to be attracted to a slave. It helps, but I usually have low expectations when it comes to slaves.

Dedication

I expect dedication from both my partner and slaves, however, more so from my partner. Why you might ask? Well, slaves come, they learn, and then they leave in search of greener pastures. There have been a few slaves that have stuck around, even though I haven't met them in over ten months, but they are exceptions. A partner, I'm expecting (although it hasn't happened yet) that they will be dedicated enough to stick around.

Love

Love is strange word with no easy definition. Perhaps to state that I would give my life for a partner who I love would put the word into perspective. I love my slaves too, but in a different way. It's more of a caring love and not so much of a romantic love - more in the way that a father cares for his offspring (or should).

Sex

Sexually, I am a top. "Well duh, right?" However, sexual position preference has nothing to do with whether you are a Master. There are Masters that are bottoms and slaves who are tops, and there are some that switch.

When I have sex with a slave, it's often seated in domination and pleasure. He may think that I am enjoying him as a 'person', but rest assured that I'm not. He's just an object and he's being used regardless of what fantasy may be going on in his head. Although I have crossed boundaries with my partners before, perhaps tying them up or using gear in bed, it's not about domination or just getting off. It's more about keeping it interesting. I have an enormous amount of respect for my partners. He is my equal in life. I give a little, he gives a little and sex isn't just sex with him. It's about sharing love, it's caring, it's intimate, it's highly emotional. None of this crosses my mind when having sex with a slave.

Interests

Of course, over time, I do get to know my slaves and some of the interests they have, but their interests really aren't that important outside of BDSM. If my slave comes over and says, "I like rollerblading". Well, that's nice, but you're not here to do rollerblading now are you? These interests may be beneficial, but are second to BDSM. On the other hand, when I'm with friends or partners, interests do matter to an extent. While two people don't need to have exact interests, it helps if the other person enjoys hiking as much as I do. Obviously, interests in BDSM do matter however or at least openness to trying different things.

Longevity

I'm not into endless relationships. Some people date only for having sex. They go on a couple of dates, make the other person feel they are serious, have sex, and then move on. In a way, they are manipulative. I'm not like this. When I'm in a relationship with someone I love, the goal is to remain with that person, to grow the relationship. On the other hand, with session slaves, it's often a very structured meeting. The slave shows up, you go through various activities, and they leave. This continues (hopefully) and they (and I) grow in the process. They may continue to see me for years of course, but it has not (as of yet) ever progressed to anything permanent. Ideally, that would happen, but it hasn't.

Kissing

I've only kissed one slave in my life and it was an error in judgment. I don't kiss slaves. It's just something I like to reserve for partners.

In closing, I know many couples who are in a relationship and are involved in BDSM. Some of these couples play together, others don't. Some see others on the side. Therefore, the above is only how I feel. Would I ever have a slave and a partner in one? It's unlikely. Although there are many parallels, I view the two differently and it would be difficult for me to reconcile the two. I challenge anyone to try. It would take a lot of effort from this person to impress me and you'd have your work cut out for you.

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Breath Play

I'm going to state what should be obvious to all my readers: breathing is necessary to sustain life and we do it all day, every day, throughout our lives giving it very little thought. It is controlled by your brain and although you can hold your breath, assuming you're healthy, you will not die by doing so. The worst that could happen is that you will pass out and your body will resume breathing on its own - although few of us can ever hold our breath anywhere close enough for that to happen.

So what's breath play?

Well, if you haven't figured it out yet by reading my blog, much of BDSM revolves around taking and relinquishing control. In simple terms, allowing a Master to control your breathing through use of some means, such as placing a hand over your mouth and nose, is breath play.

I have been involved in breath play since my roots and there are many extremes.

Breath play isn't without risk. Deprived of oxygen, anyone will pass out, and if oxygen is continually deprived (often within minutes) the slave will die - not something that any sane Master wants. Sustained breath play, even if the slave does not pass out, may result in heart palpitations and possibly a heart attack. It's important that if using a device to prevent airflow, that the device can be rapidly removed (i.e. in seconds) and that you don't leave a slave ever unattended for any duration of time. Never use devices when trying to restrict your breath on your own. It's also a good idea to limit the amount of time involved doing breath play. I tend to limit breath play to a maximum of 15 minutes in a session, taking short breaks as necessary throughout and stopping any time the slave gives a safe signal. Obviously verbal safe words don't work well in breath play.
Keep in mind the average person can hold their breath for about 25 to 40 seconds and this can pass quickly when you are engrossed in breath play.

Getting involved in breath play requires trust. The slave has to be able to trust that the Master knows what to do in an emergency and that they are going to respect any safe signals.

The simplest form of breath play involves the Master holding his hand over the slaves' nose and mouth. I find the best way is to position the slave, either sitting or standing, so their back is to you. Place the palm of your hand over the slaves' mouth. If you place your fingers over the slaves' mouth, they will still be able to breathe. Then grasp the slaves' nostrils between your thumb and the base of your index finger, essentially closing the air supply. This form is also the safest in my opinion in that the hand can simply be removed and airflow is immediately restored.

Care must be taken when using devices such as plastic wrap and bags. I believe that plastic wrap is the more unsafe of the two since it is difficult to remove quickly, especially if the slave begins to panic.
I have found that other devices, such as a pillow, is less effective at controlling breath.

What would someone want to do breath play?

From a Master's perspective, it caters to your desire to control. I personally enjoy the feeling of a slave's warm, moist breath on my hand, even if I'm not completely cutting off his breath supply. I also feel an intense rush simply from being able to control something as rudimentary as breathing.

From a slave's perspective, there may be many reasons he decides to allow the Master to control his breath. He may do it, not necessarily out of enjoyment but rather simply because he sees his Master enjoys it. If the slave is horny, depriving him of oxygen will heighten his senses and he will have a more intense orgasm.

Regardless of what you decide when it comes to breath play - play safe, know and respect your limits.

P.S. To all my regular readers, I am still around. Got lots of ideas for new posts on a variety of subjects.

Monday, September 24, 2012

Dog Positions

The following post is one that I will hopefully add to over time. It shows and describes some of the more common dog positions. NOTE: All pictures on this site were taken by me and may not be reproduced without written permission.

Kneel

The 'Kneel' command generally is used when a dog should beside his Master often in preparation for walking beside his Master. The Master's leg should be about the mid-body of the slave (just about the bottom of the rib cage) and as the dog walks, it should remain so (with the responsibility being of the dog to maintain that position). The dogs lower back should be arched, with his legs and arms spaced apart falling ideally beneath his hips and shoulders respectively. The head should be faced up and forward.

This first picture I took as it shows the inward arc of the slaves back. Such an arc is seen in real dogs. This particular slave is in pretty good shape and will probably be able to comfortably maintain that position, however, may slaves lack the definition and flexibility and often cannot arc their back or worse their lower back forms a hump. Also apparent in this photo is the slaves stronger upper body - ideal for a dog slave (well, any male in general). He holds it well, however, creating the strong chest and foreleg appearance that you would see in a real dog.



This next picture shows the same kneeling position, but from a different angle. The slaves head tilted up. The arms should fall generally beneath the shoulders as shown. The position of the hands will vary, although I tend to prefer fisted hands with the palm on the floor facing forward (as it reminds me more of a real dog), however, comfort is ideally important for maintaining this stance. 


Begging

When a real dog begs, it can either maintain a sitting position with its head tilted upwards and whining, or  it can stand up on it's legs (often more of a trick than a normal position) with it's paws bent forward with its head tilted up. The basic community norm follows the latter. This first picture was posted since it clearly shows the tilting of the slaves head upwards towards its Master. It also shows the bending of the hands. The dog should be on his knees and not standing when in this position - ideally, a dog slave should spend most of his time on his knees. 



This next photo also shows the slave begging, but from a different angle. The hands are brought up to the chest and tilted loosely forward. His head is facing upwards towards his Master. 


Lying Down

I've never been too fond of this form of lying down as it does not remind me whatsoever of a real dog, however, it does follow the community norm and can be maintained for a somewhat longer period of time. In this photo, the dog is seen lying on his belly, his legs and arms outstretched.


Sunday, September 23, 2012

Giving Up Your Life? Bud, You Just Found It.


Interestingly enough one of the most common arguments I hear from 'slaves' is that although they like submitting in the bedroom, they want all the freedoms granted to everyone else in this society outside the bedroom, often coupled with the statement that to be a 24/7/365 slave would be to 'give up their life'. This pisses me off!

The use of the word 'bedroom' in this context does not imply a place to sleep, but rather a place to have sex. Such people have reduced BSDM to something that is purely sexual - incorrectly I might add.
Although there are elements of BDSM that produce a sexually gratifying response - such as a slave who obtains an erection when in bondage, it is an elementary mindset to reduce all elements of the BDSM lifestyle to sexual ones. The delight I receive from playing with a 'human dog' for instance is purely emotional and not sexual whatsoever for me. Moreover, the aspects of control from TPE (total power exchange) cannot be limited to the confines of a bedroom without me getting bored rather quickly.

Many inexperienced slaves reading this blog may have attended several sessions with one or more Masters or Mistresses - some experienced and some just as inexperienced. These sessions oftentimes may have been short, between 2-5 hours, and packed full of activities that involve the genitals. Unfortunately, this only furthers the perception that BDSM is about sex. I can attest that longer sessions of several days or weeks, offer an experience that you will never find in a short power session. These experiences will be quite the opposite from the cold, domineering experiences seen in some fantasy porn video.

Now let's talk about the 'giving up your life part'. Obviously, something compels me to want to own a slave and likewise, something must compel you to want to be a slave. For me, it's as though every fiber in my body tells me that this is the best thing for me, and likewise, you should have the same feeling. If you don't then that's probably why you feel like your 'giving up your life' rather than a feeling of finding it. Let's explore this further.

It's normal that throughout life, even through any given day or week there are times that you don't feel like you would want to be a slave, or from my aspect - a Master. I have these feelings at times. It's normal. A friend recently asked me if I thought he was making the right choice by getting married. Feelings of uncertainty are completely normal and can be applied to almost any other type of relationship. In a few posts now, I have stated that if you can 'get-off' and still feel like being a slave afterwards, then your feelings have probably transcended beyond something that is purely hormonal and that you are ready for the next step.

The very perception that you are 'giving up your life' has to mean that you are going to be at some kind of loss by being a slave. This is a negative perception however, as there is much to be gained, depending on the slave's situation, from being in a TPE relationship - physical and health, emotional, mental, sexual, and even spiritual benefits not to mention personal growth. Now you are probably thinking "yeah, right", but consider, just as one example, the plight of gay people persecuted throughout the world and as such remain 'closeted'. Arguably, one may say that remaining closeted has benefits, but anyone who has come out knows just as well as I do that it helps us achieve a sense of self-actualization. Achieving such as state would be impossible for someone who feels like a slave but who cannot live openly as one. Yes. It's difficult first coming out of the closet, and yes, even more difficult telling your loved ones about your involvement in BDSM, but it helps strengthen relationships with those who truly care for you and makes you feel like you have a sense of autonomy.

Saturday, September 22, 2012

Games, Games, Games


When we are 'horny', our mind explores fantasies and boundaries that we would never cross in real life. And, sometimes when in the heat of the moment we might promise to or even act on something that we would never normally do. After we orgasm, we sometimes even regret the things that we've done or at the very least are astonished that we actually went through with the things we did. I don't believe there's a single adult out there who could not empathize with what I'm writing.

There are however, a select few people (definitely a minority) out there who have gotten to the point where these are no longer fantasies. They've acted on such things repeatedly enough, each gradually advancing to the next level, until they've become comfortable with them - just as comfortable as eating or sleeping. To them it is as right as rain.

Most of society, will never understand such people since they have never gone down such a path or through the cycles of growth that these people have gone through. To them it is a psychological illness. That people who are involved in such things are of a debased mind and cannot lead a functional life. Even many in BDSM, perhaps many that read my blog, may believe it only to be play. To these people the words in my blog will read perhaps as insanity or of someone that couldn't possibly be real. Nevertheless, to the select few, it has progressed beyond play - it is in a sense an integral part of their life, a state of mind and being and to outsiders they will always be thought mad.

To these people I want to say, in the strongest possible words, that I AM one of these select few and for me this is real. It is not a game. I am not horny when I write this blog (now almost for two years). I can speak about BDSM in these terms whether it be when I wake up first thing in the morning or when I hit my pillow before I fall asleep. I am also far from being a deadbeat - with over six years of education, my own home, have a solid career and am financially sound. I have achieved great things in my 37 years.

Many slaves who visit me get a lot out of a session. They learn new things and new sensations they never felt before. They learn what they like and what they don't. For them, it may be the first time they had a sound shoved down their piss hole or had electrodes strapped to their cock and balls, or the first time they were spanked or flogged or smelled a leather hood against their face. But for myself, since 2005, after having met with tens of slaves for one-time and on-going sessions, some lasting several years, I have passed all of this and I can say with absolute resolve that I need a 24/7/365 relationship in order to progress to the next level. I have been in vanilla relationships, one lasting for about eight-years and I have thought about having a 'nuclear' family and I can say with certainty that is not what I want. I want a BDSM family, with likeminded slaves.

Keep this in mind when contacting me for 24/7/365 purposes.

MASTER A

Are you a Top Dog?

I have always maintained that a 'top quality dog slave' behaves as closely to a real dog as possible every second of the day and in every aspect of life. This post describes some aspects of a real dog and how a 'top quality dog slave' should behave. After reading this post, ask yourself - are you a 'top dog slave'? If your response is No, then you have your homework cut out for you.

Hearing

Dogs can hear frequencies about three times as high as humans can. When I was a boy, I could be in my own little world, not hearing anything out of the ordinary, when my dog's ears would perk up just before he darted off in some direction.

Although it's impossible to extend the hearing abilities of a dog slave, limiting a dog slaves ability to focus on using his 'human' voice to communicate will force him to be more in tune with his other senses, including hearing.

A top quality Dog slave should learn to listen, both to his Master and to his surroundings. A good way to practice is to hood the dog slave and have him follow you based on your voice alone. Another technique is to reduce the volume of instructions to a hooded dog slave, forcing him to concentrate more on you and less on ambient noise. I don't think anyone will argue with me when I say that a slave was born to listen.

Voice

Just like Humans, dogs bark and vocalize for all kinds of reasons. "I want to play", "something's wrong", "hello", "I'm happy", etc. The difference is that we can use our larynx to formulate a much larger vocabulary to communicate in other words - a Language that consists of tens of thousands of words and even imply meaning just on how such words are arranged and the inflection used to speak them.

Perhaps my most contentious point in this post - a top quality dog slave should stop speaking as a human as much as possible, perhaps limiting it to certain periods of the day or once a week (my preference being to one period a week). Instead, dog slaves should learn how to vocalize like a real dog and understand even the most subtle nuances between barks. A dog slave is capable of this, and like most things, it is only a matter of sheer will. There are plenty of books on dog barks and what they mean and anyone who has owned a real dog will already know some of them just by reflecting back to the various interactions you've had with your dog.

I realize that the thought of ceasing to speak may scare many and may cause you to feel as though you are giving up a human trait, but keep in mind there are millions of people who cannot speak at all (born mute or selective mute) and they are no less human because of it. Instead, they learn to communicate using other means, such as sign language (I know some myself) and learning to bark (albeit a more limited form of communication by comparison) is just as valid in my opinion.

I am going to go a step further and say that those dog slaves who only behave as a dog some of the time and not at others, such as when outside the home, should limit their verbal communication with others. I realize that this may seem rude. For instance, imagine being in a store and the clerk asks how you are doing (perhaps you let out a smile instead), or a clerk may ask you if you need assistance or says goodbye and you don't respond. Even worse, another customer attempts to start up a conversation with you in line and you say nothing. Choosing not to speak in such situations does not reflect poorly on you - but rather on others when they judge you for not speaking - especially not knowing your situation.

Smell

Depending on the breed, a dog can have as many as 20-60 times the number of scent receptors as humans and can smell 1,000 to 10,000 times better. Dogs use this capability to seek out food, find a mate, identify territories, etc. Again, it's impossible to increase the number of scent receptors in a dog slave, but it is possible to teach your dog to place a higher emphasis on smell and in time to become better at it.

A dog slave should spend considerable time using his nose to smell things around the house, including his Master (if permitted). A top quality dog slave, when blindfolded, should be able to pick out his Master from a line-up of men. Sounds crazy? It shouldn't.

Another thing that may help is to deprive your dog slave of his sense of smell. Use Vaseline under the nose or another scent to block out other scents or use a nose clip - the same ones that swimmers use. Remove it when there is something specific you want him to start smelling - such as your crotch and then reapply and repeat the process. As with my previous point, not everyone can smell (such as those with anosmia or hyposmia) and if you've ever 'lost your sense of smell' temporarily such as when you have a cold, you know that it can somewhat rob you of many of the joys of life. The point here is not to rob your dog of his sense of smell, but to help him tune into it.

Play

Dogs are social animals and so are humans. It's inhumane to keep a dog from socializing with other dogs and likewise a dog slave with other dog slaves. There are lines to draw however. Socializing does not mean speaking as a human or behaving as a human or taking off his leather mitts to play a video game or surf the Internet. Socializing should be limited between the dog slave and his Master, his Master's friends (if permitted) and other dog slaves. And, there are many ways to play that follow our theme of emulating a real dog and have nothing to do with BDSM or sex.

Playing catch is fun although you may find your dog slave (of course) is unable to run as fast as a real dog ;-) Popcorn tossed up in the air for him to catch makes a great snack (the pure kind at least). Squeaky toys are fun, although it's best to buy the soft rubber ones as they are easier on the teeth, to clean, and won't give your dog slave a hairball. Wrestling with other dog slaves is fun to watch and you can always reward the more dominant of the two dogs (or lesser if you like to play that way).

It's important to realize that at the end of the day, being all caged up, play is a way for your dog slave to bond with his Master and over time will be seen as a reward.

Grooming

Dogs groom themselves and each other and grooming is no less important for a dog slave. We would never take our dogs to a groomer - it just wasn't commonplace where I grew up. My dogs used to run down to the brook and use it to cool off as well as wash their bodies and they would lick their fur before lying down for a nap. Therefore, it makes sense, that dog slaves should be responsible for some of their grooming. Some of these tasks could be delegated to another slave in the house of course and that would be ideal. A Master may view giving his dog slave a bath as being above him, but it can be fun and another way to bond - it doesn't have to be in water either...

I believe a dog slave should not wash every day as a human would. A once a week (longer preferred) shaving of the face and head, trimming of the nails, and body hair removal, along with a bath should suffice.

Hair

Dogs have hair and with some breeds having several coats. Even the furriest of dog slaves will be cold in the winter or at night and will need a means of keeping warm. Some dog slaves like growing out their hair a bit, having a beard, and having hair on their bodies as it gives them a feeling of being more like a real dog. As most of us know, hair of course can get in the way of many BDSM activities and so oftentimes Dog Slaves are shaved.

I personally prefer a hairless dog slave from neck to toe with permanent hair removal being my preferred choice over the long term to reduce upkeep. One may think that shaving is better as a continual means of emasculating your male slave, of course, so is removing his hair so it can never grow back.

Food and Drink


Real dog food is unfit for human consumption. I don't want to say how I know this - but it's not. I realize that most kids have dared each other to eat a nibble of dry dog food - often being playfully teased when they have, but what we are talking about here is enough to sustain your dog slave. Many of the top manufacturers of dog food have retrofitted their plants to be compliant with human food standards - even so, it's not something to rely on.

So what's a Master to do? Hundreds of alternatives come to mind (a winning idea would be for someone to actually start making 'human dog' food - I'm not sure if that already exists lol). Canned foods, such as chunky soups come to the top of my mind as well as a good plate of spaghetti or potatoes (if he isn't inclined to gas), and although this will sustain your dog slave for a while, ultimately he will need to eat proper food to stay fit and healthy. Kitchen scraps are good for your dog slave and help him learn quickly that he is not automatically entitled to eating the best food out of the oven - such a practice could be used as a reward (or punishment) in a group of dog slaves.

Above all, top dog slaves don't eat off plates or with knives and forks or drink out of cups and glasses. They don't eat sitting at a table either. Sorry, but such behavior is appalling and unacceptable!!! Dog slaves who do this are nothing of the sort and are a mockery. Although some owner's dog feed real dogs off a plate, my mother would have killed me if I did that as a child and I believe it to be true even of dog slaves. If a dog bowl weren't lying around, we'd dump it right on the porch or ground. It is acceptable (and I enjoy this) to allow your dog slave to eat out of your palm sometimes, licking it completely clean.

Anyone who's owned real dogs knows that most dogs are highly guarding of their bowl of food. If you have multiple dog slaves, each should have their own bowls. I always wonder what they did to the real dogs that are able to eat out of each other's bowls without squabbling. Perhaps such dogs are over fed. Although there is some room for reward (punishment) over which dog slaves are allowed to feed first.

The last point I want to make is that a top dog slave never eats before its Master. Even if the Master places a bowl of food in front of his dog, the dog should wait until his Master beings to feed.

Guard

The dogs I had as a child could be absolutely vicious around strangers, gnashing their teeth and barking ferociously. Once they recognized me, they followed me everywhere and would obey - of course, I was the only one that fed them.

Lately I've been having this idea of having my dog slave sleep during the day in his cage while I'm at work and staying awake at night chained near my bed watching over me, instructing him to awaken me with licking at a predefined hour.

A top dog slave recognizes his role to protect and guard his Master. This may seem backwards but it's not. Your dog slave is part of a family - a pack in a sense. Yes, at the top of that pack is his Master. A top dog slave must recognize that his sense of belonging should not come from anyone outside that family. He shouldn't look for it with friends or work and if he is then in a sense he really isn't at the point where he has accepted his role as a dog slave. Albeit one dog slave may be more dominant than another dog, every dog within a pack has a responsibility to guard the family unit.

Obedience

Above all else, a top dog slave is obedient. Although within the pack, a dog may vie for top position and yes not all dogs are equally dominant, some choosing to be more submissive and others being forced into such submission, at the end of the day, when in danger, they bind together as a unit under their Master. I will admit I enjoy seeing dogs play for dominance.

There is truth to the expression "you don't bite the hand that feeds you" and a top dog slave will recognize that his Master ultimately is the "top dog" and being obedient is a means of recognizing the power that he has over you and that he ultimately holds not only the best interest of you as a single dog, but of the entire pack.

Sunday, May 27, 2012

What Happens When You Max Out


At one point or another, every slave reaches a time when the Master they've been visiting isn't fulfilling their desires. Perhaps they wanted more bondage and just weren't getting it or a particular type of bondage or an activity that the Master wasn't able or wasn't willing to perform. In some cases, perhaps the slave wants to move up the ladder a bit and have slaves of his own.

This morning I awakened to a thought, which in retrospect may seem ridiculous, but honestly had never crossed my mind: what happens when a Master reaches this point? What happens when it seems that no slave is able to provide YOU with what YOU need?

Masters provide a service. Yes, a service. We don't like to admit it since by definition slaves are supposed to be serving us. But we are like the service person at the gas station that fills up the car. They come to us empty, in need, and we do all sorts of things to set them right. Then they drive away and hardly look back. 

Experienced Masters are patient, investing months and even years into a slave - I have, many times over. But for what? The result is always the same and is never 24/7/365. Of course, there are those slaves who move on for which you had some affect on their life and are left feeling like a proud father, but they are a rarity.

So what is a Master to do? This question creates a conundrum to which I do not have an answer - at least not at this point.

Saturday, March 31, 2012

First Contact

Less often than you may think, considering the number of people who have read this blog, and for whatever reason, the spring season, the moon, alignment of stars - you get the idea; I get a little spurt of emails pouring in from slaves wanting to meet me. But their unpreparedness often results in me either quickly losing interest after the first second email or in the odd case not wanting to respond at all.

Here are some tips to use when writing me or any Master/Sir out there to better improve your chances:

Overall

- Be confident. Yes! Even as a slave. It demonstrates that you WANT to meet.
- Be persistent. The email may have gone into junk mail (it has happened).
- Be sincere, honest, and courteous. Use either 'Master' or 'Sir' when writing.
- Use proper grammar and spelling and avoid slang. It shows some level of education.
- Longer emails that show you actually took time to write them will get a better response.

Include a Face Pic

A Master/Sir wants to know who he is meeting. No one is judging you or going to say you're ugly. If he does, he's a moron.

- A clear and recent face pic is a MUST.
- Avoid GQ or other fashion type pics that would make anyone question whether it is actually you.
- Don't write until you have a face pic available. "I'll send it on the weekend" or "I don't have a camera" will only get your email thrown in bin 14.

Inclusion of Body Pics

- Optional and secondary to a face pic.
- Take a headless front, side, and back pic in good light.

Inclusion of Play Pics

- Optional and secondary to a face pic.
- Include only those pics that are of you.
- Do NOT include pics of you tying yourself up.

Include Basic Stats

Basic Stats are anything that is not easily discernible from your face and body pics.

- Age
- Height (in feet and inches)
- Weight (in pounds)

Include Your Location

- City
- Country (if outside Canada)

Include Info on Health Issues

- HIV positive or negative
- Current STD's (including fungal infections, crabs, etc.)
- Other problems (i.e. ongoing bleeding, allergies, seizures, medicines, mental health, etc.)

Include Your Experience

Provide a brief summary of activities that you have participated in, your limits, and what areas you'd like growth. Don't write that you are experienced if your only experience has been playing with yourself. In such a case, it is better to write that you have no experience.

Short and Long Term Goals

My blog is titled '24/7/365 BSDM Blog'. So if your goal is only to have a little fun, I'm probably not for you. If you are looking for on-going visits and are not partnered, then I'm up for that.

When Can You Meet

- Specific dates, days, times, etc. that you are available to meet.
- Avoid emailing if you cannot meet within two weeks.

Connections

Throughout the ages there have been cases of boys and girls raised by animals of various kinds and these cases raise all sorts of questions related to what is learned behavior and what is innate behavior. Innate behaviors are those that things that you do instinctively, without thinking, such as breathing or a baby grabbing your finger. Learned behaviors are those things that you do in reaction to an experience or that guide your behavior such as cultural norms. So children who are raised by wolves for instance, will still breathe and feel hunger and want to put things in their mouths to eat, but their learned behaviors will emulate those around them, walking on all fours, not speaking in a human tongue but rather vocalizing like the pack, etc.

As a slave, Masters have certain expectations of you, which although may fall within the cultural norms of BDSM, can widely vary with each Master. You however, were not raised by Masters, but by parents who (hopefully) raised you using socially acceptable practices. You grew to develop social connections with your peers, possibly get an education, acquire possessions, etc. And, grew to be what we call, a "productive citizen".

It is documented that such children have great difficulty, depending on their age and other factors, of re-integrating within human society. Why? Well, most would not argue that the human brain develops enormously during childhood and although, it still develops as an adult, it does so at a slower pace. Most of the connections have already been made and it takes longer to develop new connections. It's difficult to let go of the familiar and this is seen in such things as religion.

For slaves, this is no different. The ability for you to change into what your Master wants for you is against your grain so to speak. For example, some dog slaves say that they "never want to speak like a human again". Of course, nothing is impossible if you really want it, but highly implausible since you have already learned to speak like a human and if put in the right situation you would find it difficult to restrain yourself from doing so.

I want you to go get a blank page of paper and a pen. Do it NOW. This is important. We're going to do a simple exercise.

I want you to answer the following questions, with each of your answers on its own line:

- Who are the people in your immediate and extended family?
- Who are your friends?
- What things in the community do you rely on? For example, schools, a doctor, a dentist, etc.
- What are your sources of income? Debt?
- What are your possessions?

Now I want you to think of your connection to each of the above and rate the strength of the connection you have to each of them as follows: [1] Close Connection, [2] Weak Connection, and [3] Broken Connection.
When you are done, you may continue reading this post.

Done? How does your paper look?

If you have a lot of #2's, then being a full 24/7/365 slave, where you give up absolute control, may be a serious possibility for you.

If you have a lot of #1's, it doesn't mean that you'll never attain 24/7/365, it just means you need a plan. So let's do that now. Yes, now.

Go back over your answers above. Beside your family and friends, write how often you feel you would need to see them or contact them. Beside the things in your community, think about how often you utilize these resources.  Beside your sources of income and debt, think about what you will still need if you become a slave. And beside your possessions, think of how much you use them and whether that would change upon becoming a slave.

The most important thing I believe in becoming a 24/7/365 is realizing that although you will have losses, you will have gains and it is important to discuss your above plan with your Master.

Being a 24/7/365 is not a bad thing. If you feel like a slave, then it's normal, just like being gay or straight. It may still not be culturally acceptable - actually the opposite, but it's your decision, and yours alone and no one has a right to take that from you and I hope you take at least something away from this post.

Watersports

It's been a while since my last posting since I've had some things on the go and I was surprised to see that I had not yet written anything on watersports. And no, I don't mean jet skiing or swimming but rather piss/urine play - the kind you can enjoy all year around.

The first experience I can remember was many years back. I placed a slave in my bath tub and began pissing onto his body. He was kneeling down, wearing a blindfold and his hands were cuffed behind his back. As my piss trickled down his chest, I aimed a bit higher onto his face and he closed his mouth and turned his head slightly - obviously just as inexperienced as I was. The first time, being new to me, I felt (probably just like him) a little nervous and euphoric that I was actually pissing on a guy. The more I did it, the more relaxed I became and the more I enjoyed it. In a sense, for me it was a way of degrading him.

As I met more slaves, some of them would open their mouth and I would aim and piss into it. But they would let the piss run out of their mouth and into the tub below. I quickly became bored with this as I viewed the dispelling of my piss as a form of rejection (perhaps crazy, but true).

I already had a piss gag that I had bought more for looks than purpose, and I placed it on a slave, held his head back, and let my piss flow into the opening. I told the slave to swallow, and he did. I have trouble describing the sense of elation I had when he first swallowed my piss. It made me feel more ownership over him.

As time went on, I met a few 'piss pigs' (or someone who has a fetish for all things piss) and these slaves would drink my directly from my cock, some without a single drop spilled. If you've never had your piss drunken directly from your cock before, it's a pretty powerful feeling. Having a slave look up at you as he drinks and say "thank you Master" afterwards makes you feel pretty dominant over him.

Of course, it doesn't stop there. Fucking a slave and then pissing into his ass afterwards is equally rewarding. How do you piss into an ass? Well, oftentimes, even when you have an erection, you may still need to piss. Depending on the guy's penis, for some guys, this can be easy, for others with hard cocks (like me) it takes a bit of practice - more finding the right stance.

I have yet to try pissing into a slave's food, something I have fantasized about lately.
As a slave grows more experienced, the play can move from a 'tiled zone' to other living areas, although outside play is always fun.

As a Master, if you've never tried watersports, you should. It's important that you understand how certain things feeling before trying them on others. You can always use your own piss. The first time I enjoyed piss play was lying naked in the bath tub (without water of course), and pissing onto my chest. I was amazed by the warmth on my body as I aimed higher and up and into my mouth, where I swallowed my first gulp of piss - a bit salty, but not bad.

Many slaves enjoy becoming a Masters urinal and as a Master, one of my greatest pleasures is a slave who wants to be treated as such. 


Something has to be said about the strength of piss. I know some mornings when I wake up, I swear my own make of jet fuel is coming out of me. It's best to start off with diluted piss and work your way up to drinking a morning piss. And if you can handle the strength, but are more concerned by the effects it may have on your body, drink water afterwards.

In terms of health, unlike popular believe, urine is not always sterile - think of a bladder infection for instance. It also can contain medicines and vitamins being consumed by the Master.

If you're one of the 7% out there with a shy bladder, the label given to people who have trouble urinating with others present, you're not alone. I was in that category when I first started out (honorably) and here are some things you can do about it:

                - Blindfold the slave.
                - Put the slave in the shower and close the curtain, begin pissing in toilet, and when you get your flow, pull back the curtain and continue.
                - Piss on the slave during a shower.
                - Leave the slave in the shower and walk away and come back after you're anxiety is gone.

Over time you'll find that it becomes easier.